Hip Single Mom meets Hot Single Dad… match made in heaven?

You’d think it would be perfect, right? Hip single momma meets a hot single dad? Its a romantic-comedy waiting to be exploited Hollywood style. Except that there is very little storyline, very little romance and a lot of (did someone say sexual?) frustration.

I met Sexy Single Dad (who shall remain nameless for the moment) three weeks ago thru a craigslist posting. No…its not what you think, it wasn’t an advertisement in the personals (that was a one time only experience and is very much out of my system!–see ode to dating pics for more). The craigslist connection was work related, and if this relationship fares well I’ll share the story with you (its actually kinda cute).

…But at this point its hard to tell if there ever will be a relationship, or a story to blog about at a later date. Not for lack of common interests or even lack of attraction or physical chemistry (there is almost too much to function!) But because both of us are juggling diapers, daycare, personal baggage with the ex, and the incredibly terrifying duty of mapping out the rest of our lives (and stewarding those of our sons). After the grocery shopping, bath times and bed-times stories are complete, there is definitely a lack of time and energy to invest in another person at the end of day. But if you want to know the real lack that is holding us back, I think its lack of courage.

As single parents we have learned to adorn ourselves in a certain kind of armor that serves to protect not only us, but our children as well. We fought hard for that armor, have war-wounds on the heart to prove it, and are not about to scrap the metal for just anybody…even if they do happen to stand on the same side of the battle field, and uncannily share our same hopes and fears.

The urge comes and I wish Sexy Single Dad and I could rendesvouz at a cheap hotel, and enjoy the heck out of each other for one afternoon before we had to pick up our kids at their respective daycares. But its not that simple. Though the devil in me persists, I hesitate, because, with Sexy Single Dad, there might actually be real potential to make something work .

On a very practical level it is extremely hard to find a romantic moment with Sexy Single Dad because as soon as we get comfy on the coach, we have not just one set of baby-eyes looking up at us with disturbing intensity and inquisitiveness (why is mommy doing!?), we have two; and double heat-of-the-moment stinky diaper interruptions.

One would think (at least I do when day-dreaming in my rainbow universe) that a hip single momma who finds a hot single daddy with children the same age as her own, would make life a picnic. The babies would be buddies, and keep each other perfectly entertained in the living room while mommy and daddy did the same in the bedroom. Okay, so I may be getting a little ahead of myself, but that would be one goal, right?

Single moms and single dads do deserve a sex life too…problem is, when to fit it in, how to blind fold and muffle the kids in a P.C. way, and how to remove the incredibly protective armor around the heart.